Communication Woes

The communication flow within same age group is always natural and comfortable. There is invariably a communication gap between parents and married children. However there is no communication gap between siblings, although they may not enjoy harmony in their relationship. Children avoid sharing communication with those parents, who are ever ready to offer unsolicited suggestions. They start hiding information from parents. Spouses may accept suggestions from respective parents, but resent the same from in-laws. Parents must respect the privacy of their children’s families. An optimum, balanced communication between married children and old parents is a coveted goal for all of us.

To communicate or not

My son has gone abroad, with his family, for a week.

When did he go?

He didn’t tell me.

When will he be back?

He didn’t tell me.

I am unable to contact him, on his mobile.

It is switched off.

He isn’t responding to my e-mails.

He isn’t responding on ‘Skype’.

How to communicate with him!

I am frustrated.

How could he be so casual?

No news, for 3 days!

I am worried for him.

Does it solve the problem?

It doesn’t.

Yet, I feel satisfied, having done my duty.

Expectations

My father is very old, and is not too well.

My son does enquire about his health.

Still I feel lonely, thinking of my father, and nursing him.

I want to share my father’s memories with my son.

There is a generation gap.

I realize: my father is not an immediate family member for my son.

Me and my siblings share the childhood memories of our father.

Sharing communication!

My son may be having his own priorities in life.

He is entitled to his family’s privacy.

He may not like to share his privacy.

As a parent, I am worried about him.

God bless his family, with all safety, and security.

Only God can look after our welfare

We can look after our family, when God blesses us.

My son is grown up.

He is gone with his family.

If something goes wrong there, what can I do?

Can I prevent?

Can I help?

I can only worry.

Do animals behave better?

They groom the cubs for self-reliance.

Then, they wash off their hands from ‘baby care’, and they live on their own.

Only God can look after His creation.

When will human beings shed ‘attachment’?

Let’s learn from animals.

They trust God, to look after His creations.

We have trust deficit.

We indulge in the unproductive luxury of worrying for our children, and grandchildren.